I can’t even remember my first Mother’s Day, but I do remember my worst Mother’s Day. We ended up doing what the ex wanted, believing of course, that I would enjoy sitting around on a tugboat with no sides with my active toddler while he fixed it. Needless to say, one of the many reasons he became an ex. It is infuriating how mothers are treated. Being a stay at home mother, with no pay, translated into low Social Security since it’s based on your work record. Yet, the job encompasses so many skills that are used to manage a household, cook, child rearing, finances, personal assistant, teaching, and the list goes on. We should be able to include it all on our resumes.
Anyway, I’m looking forwards to getting my yarn and making my mom and daughter some lux wash cloths just cuz.
Thanks for sharing the tale of your first Mother's Day! I am sure I had one of those days as well, not necessarily linked to Mother's Day - but oh, the feeling of disappointment can be so acute, and the crazy expectations that I realize are informed by all the noise around us. I'm sure it made you wonder how your spouse escaped all the advertising in the weeks leading up to Mother's Day! And while one might really secretly (?) wish for some acknowledgment, there's also the wrinkle of being totally gouged by all the vendors during that "holiday."
Also, I appreciate your sharing the gaslighting article - I have read a lot about pandemic impact on working parents and those are some real downsides, especially in workplaces where they didn't adapt to the new reality of parents having to manage their children's care and schooling at home on top of everything else.
Recently had a conversation with a friend whose Catholic upbringing guided us through her explaining the divergence of Mothering Sunday and Mother's Day...
I can’t even remember my first Mother’s Day, but I do remember my worst Mother’s Day. We ended up doing what the ex wanted, believing of course, that I would enjoy sitting around on a tugboat with no sides with my active toddler while he fixed it. Needless to say, one of the many reasons he became an ex. It is infuriating how mothers are treated. Being a stay at home mother, with no pay, translated into low Social Security since it’s based on your work record. Yet, the job encompasses so many skills that are used to manage a household, cook, child rearing, finances, personal assistant, teaching, and the list goes on. We should be able to include it all on our resumes.
Anyway, I’m looking forwards to getting my yarn and making my mom and daughter some lux wash cloths just cuz.
Thanks for sharing the tale of your first Mother's Day! I am sure I had one of those days as well, not necessarily linked to Mother's Day - but oh, the feeling of disappointment can be so acute, and the crazy expectations that I realize are informed by all the noise around us. I'm sure it made you wonder how your spouse escaped all the advertising in the weeks leading up to Mother's Day! And while one might really secretly (?) wish for some acknowledgment, there's also the wrinkle of being totally gouged by all the vendors during that "holiday."
Also, I appreciate your sharing the gaslighting article - I have read a lot about pandemic impact on working parents and those are some real downsides, especially in workplaces where they didn't adapt to the new reality of parents having to manage their children's care and schooling at home on top of everything else.
Recently had a conversation with a friend whose Catholic upbringing guided us through her explaining the divergence of Mothering Sunday and Mother's Day...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day
I can see my big brother’s face now!!! I’m sure it looked shocked and surprised like when I out sass him.