Finding happiness where you're at, even if that place includes a sweater that gapes and apologies that aren't going to happen
Such a wonderful piece of writing, I'm so pleased I found you here. You've really given me some food for thought. And that Jack Johnson song! In fact that entire album was the only thing that soothed our fractious over-stimulated boys when they were small. "Jack music" was what they always used to ask for.
This is an interesting topic. I have been looking for an article on this topic for a long time. Anne thank you for your thoughts! 😺😺😺
I love your new newsletter name, logo and look! Hooray for giving me the option to support what you do. I look forward to your gentle words each week. I took a sweater knitting class at my LYS - a big and kind of scary step for me. It is the first real garment I've made. I'm starting sleeve #1 and have learned so much. Taking a risk is always worth it. Thank you for your words of encouragement.
Once again I feel like you are speaking directly to me and my heart; as if we are sitting together sharing tea and heartfelt conversation. I am delighted to be able to support you and your work as a founding subscriber. I’m glad you have taken this step. It’s a way for those of who can, to put our money where our hearts, ethics and values lie. I’m with you!
Congratulations on altering your sweater to your liking, and for using your sewing knowledge to assist you in fitting your sweater just so. A real accomplishment!
About grudges: I see them as information about ourselves, as you described, and opportunities to see where we need to/can change ourselves, and where we can let go, to free ourselves to move forward into being a better version of ourselves.
I am just so very grateful to have found you, thanks to a gift subscription of your luscious yarn from my son last year!
Thanks, as always, for your thought-provoking newsletter. I realize I have the same "grudge" feelings about clothes that don't fit quite right - it's such a disappointment, and even worse if it's something you made and had great hopes for (and necessarily spent so much time and effort to create). Your details on how you mended the sweater still has me thinking that's a bridge too far for me, but that you tackled it was very motivating! Maybe now I will be less prone to skip or ignore the patterns (or pattern sections) that have these other details (like darts). It is a gift to be able to make adjustments and make things right for you!
Yay you for making your sweater something you want to wear. About your other grudge….there are so many white knit "influencers," and white people, period, who are never going to unpack how they contribute to the exclusion of people of a different race/class/country of origin/ religion/ skin color/gender/sexual orientation, etc. They consciously or unconsciously gain too much from things as they are.
I decided that it was best for me to not rent them space in my head. And to direct my attention, my time, my social media time & likes, and my dollars to those who are actively working to dismantle the systemic discrimination and inequalities. As my dad often said, "Don't try to teach a pig to talk. It wastes your time and annoys the pig."